I see you're here at last throwing up your hands in frustration. And you do sound frustrated and angry but hold on a minute. Its always easier for an outsider to see things from a different point of view from you.
For instance, I pick up a lot of negativity from your posts. Maybe its just your frustration showing through but you make it sound like you think that this is all your W's problem that SHE is the one with the problem. She isn't doing anything to fix it, you're still waiting etc but what about you? Are you working on you? Maybe you should try a different approach?
She had issues about me In that last therapy session, the therapist asked my wife if there was anything she needed from me, and she said "No, he's great!".
This sounds contradictory. Maybe you have to think harder about what issues she has about you and work on those?
The feeling I walk away with though is this: why do I have to pay $4000 for a getaway vacation just to make love to my wife?
I'm sorry Cloudnine but this sounds awful to me even as a HD spouse. I would love for my H to take me away for a naughty weekend but more than that I would love for him to take me away because he wants to spend time with me and enjoys my company not because he wants sex and besides you did say "Nevertheless, she did try" which is a lot more than what the other spouses here are getting.
I do see a lot of positives coming from your W. She did go to therapy with you, she did try, she even read up to pg 91 of the book (most wouldn't even read pg 1, just the title is enough to put them off). Maybe you just need her different approach to awaken the fires within her.
Sorry, I don't think I have been of much help you don't give enough details so your sitch is not very clear, still the above is what I read from it. Some others, like Corri for example will be able to give you a wonderful perspective to what you are experiencing. Good luck. LH
