I came home the other night and just KNEW someone had been in the house. I think most of us have had that feeling. Anyway, after looking around, I determined some items were missing (this is the third time) and goofy stuff had been done. Some of the missing stuff did not make sense -- like a couple of strings of Christmas lights, a purse, a change purse, and the book "Stop Walking on Eggshells." Other stuff got my attention -- like the only set of keys to a car, and the erasure of a couple of contact numbers from the phone memory.
I have a pretty good idea WHO did this, but as always, no proof. Guess I'll pass this on to the attorney for all the good it will do.
What makes them do this kind of stuff?
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
Locks were changed. Can't figure out how the Houdini act is being accomplished.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
All entry codes were changed. Maybe I need to electrify the door knobs.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
Early on, I figured out I was not going to "gut" my way through this. Went to the doctor for the standard physical stuff, explained my situation, and got some "happy" pills. They don't really make me happy, of course, but I am less unhappy.
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Good for you!! I am very glad you took that step. I have to take anti-depression medication, also. You are right, they don't make you feel all "high" or "happy-go-lucky". I don't know where they got that name of "happy pills". I wished it were that easy. But, when you have depression whether it is clinical, due to a disease, physical or emotional pain, it hurts and it is very difficult to deal with life. People who have never lived with it should never judge others that have to deal with it every day of their lives. It is like a disease that you can't get rid of but you try to learn to manage it. There are types of depression that do not last b/c it comes from stress or sadness, such as you have experienced. The medication is suppose to help you feel "normal"......and just feeling normal is a good feeling when you have experienced depression for a long time. If you do not feel better in 4-6 weeks, then tell the doctor b/c what one medicine works for one person may not help another. So, don't give up and allow the doctor to try another kind if you still need it.
Walking or some other type of exercise is very healthy and especially to ease stress and anxiety. I have tried to get some people on the board to purchase a punching bag to get rid of their anger....lol. I think taking up kick boxing would be a good sport....
Okay, I better leave well enough alone. Have a good weekend. Get out of the house and make a good one.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
sandi [/quote]Walking or some other type of exercise is very healthy and especially to ease stress and anxiety. I have tried to get some people on the board to purchase a punching bag to get rid of their anger....lol. I think taking up kick boxing would be a good sport....
Get out of the house and make a good one.[/quote]
Thanks for the insight. As always, just doing the best I can. I continue to burn entirely too many brain cells on this topic. Once I regain some interest in life I'll start the exercize thing. Right now, no energy and always cold all the time.
And, you are absolutely correct that getting out of the house is beneficial. The getting better aspect of this is all up to me -- time will tell and help. It is not as bad as it was just a couple months ago.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
Yes, time does more than people give it credit. I hope you will be patient with yourself and don't expect too much. As you said, you feel like your brain cells have been used to much on all of this, so you know what you need to do. Taking care of you is the number one priority right now. Rest when you need to and as much as you need to. Eat well and just be good to yourself. I just don't want you to give up on living b/c you are still young enough and have enough life ahead of you that you need to enjoy it to the fullest. This will pass and you will move on. I realize you probably hear this a lot, but it is true. You may even want to take a break for the board for a few days if it is too hard on you. But, I hope that you will stay in touch. We would miss talking to you and knowing how you are doing.
Stay well, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
So, today (9 Feb), I get an email from WW out of the blue. I have not seen nor talked with her in two months. She is with OM.
Email -- "Talked with (son) last night. He said dog tore up all his cushions and craps everywhere. His cats are a little wild also. How have you been? All the (grand)kids ask about you, you should pick them up for a couple hours one of these weekends. Do you think you could drop off my stationary bike?"
SOOOO -- what am I dealing with here. Any ideas on how or how not to respond?
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09