haven't heard back from my L; he's been in court. I hate for things to be up in the air like this.
It's been a nice week with H out of town; back tonite, tho. It's much more peaceful this way.
Tomorrow D12 becomes D13. Good heavens, I'm going to be the mother of a teenager. Yikes! I'm open to advice. We have such a good relationship--I hate to see that change! Not that some magic (or demonic possession) happens overnight, I'm jus' sayin'.
Meanwhile, continuing to reconnect with my old friend from younger days. It's been really positive, and it's so nice to have something to look forward to (IM'ing most evenings). It's almost frightening how much potential this has.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Please keep a record of each of these collections calls. Tell them that your husband is legally responsible for the payment to them, and give them his home and cellphone (not work) #s, and ask that they don't call you anymore.
Call the mediator yourself, and see if they'll work with you on payment. Hopefully, it will be adjudicated that your husband has to pay for the hold thing, since -- last I checked -- you never planned to run off to the coven and rip apart your family.
The frustrating thing is, I've tried to give them his number. Heck, at this point I'd even give them the number for the pagan princess. But they won't take it. And won't quit calling me. However, I did notify my L and suggest that he communicate with H's L about this asap.
I'm hoping that they'll just drop the mediator idea, since it just seems to add a step and a lot of money to the process anyway, without any foreseeable benefit. Except for H to be able to tell folks how wonderful he was to go thru mediation--which sounds more "friendly" than it is. I'd just as soon not go thru the farce of sitting across a table from him pretending he has D13's best interest in mind. We could just come to agreement through our L's. And so far, he's paying all my L fees, since this was his project and not mine.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
I've gone through 3 teens (2 girls and 1 boy) and now it's my last, D16. She is awesome. I wouldn't have it any other way. They have kept me on my toes and then some, but the love one feels for those brats ---- aaaahhhh ---- nothing like it.
How ya doing Hmama?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I've gone through 3 teens (2 girls and 1 boy) and now it's my last, D16. She is awesome. I wouldn't have it any other way. They have kept me on my toes and then some, but the love one feels for those brats ---- aaaahhhh ---- nothing like it.
How ya doing Hmama?
Thanks! Doing just fine. D13 hasn't morphed into a crazy person just yet, so all is good there. She's in a healing touch class the next 2 days and looking forward to that.
Not doing much db'ing these days. Truth is, it never much mattered if I did it or not because H never would have noticed anyway. At this point, working on GAL'ing, enjoying my daughter, and surviving the impending divorce. And I'm really okay with that. I think H is gone, gone, gone, and while he may eventually come to his senses, I don't believe it's at all likely based upon past patterns. He has run from one thing to another his whole life, leaving whatever isn't fulfilling to him and jumping on whatever else is affirming and good for his ego. While I had hoped that he would grow out of this, there are no signs that he's growing at all. The hurt is gone, except what I feel for my daughter. I turned some sort of corner the first of the year and am finally able to enjoy my life and look forward instead of backwards. A few weeks ago I reconnected with an old friend, now living in another state and in the same stage of the divorce process I am. The mutual support and connection have been very positive for both of us; we both realize there's serious potential in this relationship if we take it very slowly and maturely. But it's also nice to feel a bit like a teenager again.
Life is good. I'd like the next few months to speed by and have the divorce behind me, but they will take their time and I will survive them.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
