Wayward Wife/MLC or Just Bad Behavior

[fitzge]

The saga continues.

1. Daughter who lives back EAST flies into town yesterday. I haven't heard from her. I guess she bee-lined right over to WW's place. I understand SHE is the mother, but it still hurts. I guess it is no fun being around the responsible parent when you can go off with the Disneyland one. And, what could be more fun than hanging out with a parent who's acting like a teenager and drink til you drop.

2. Go word that someone mailed letters to WW's relatives telling them what is going on. Of course, you know WHO this will be pinned on. I smell a lawsuit set up. What SHE doesn't get in the settlement SHE plans on getting in round two.

3. I signed the papers to sell the house two weeks ago. Got an email from the realtor saying WW has not gotten back with realtor to sign them. I have to leap through hoops and do everything directed by the court. I'll be held in contempt if I don't. Apparently, other folks get to live by any old timeline they want.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Sounds like it's time for some good ol' country hardball, Fitz.

[fitzge]

Sounds like it's time for some good ol' country hardball, Fitz.

No sure what that is?

[fitzge]

karen43 -- yeah, the alcohol issue is there and pretty much insurmountable. I've about decided it is time to just throw in the towel.

On another note, I just got back from the attorney. The other attorney keeps asking me to submit and resubmit bank statements and financial disclosures. Some now this guy has it in his brain that I've got money hidden. So, I respond to all the court papers

Oh the other hand, WW is supposed to come up with 50% of a mortgage payment, get a realtor to put a piece of proper up for sale, and finally, sign off with yet another realtor to sell the house. She doesn't seem to have time to do that. The court ordered it done NLT 23 January. Really nice how one person risks contempt of court charges and the other party does whatever they want, whenever they want.

[kat727]

Did you ask your L why your W hasn't done her part of the court order? I don't think any judge would take kindly to being dismissed so to speak.

I would keep doing all the things that you need to and keep touch on the rest of the situation with your L. Perhaps this showing of her will reflect on her through out the proceedings.

kat
PS Just so you know you don't need to use the 727 after my name or even the 43 after Karen's. We just are who we are.

[fitzge]

kat

Doing the best I can to deal with life's day to day challenges. you know the pesky stuff like going to work, bills, etc. This current side show takes a lot of energy and is very exhausting.

The lawyers are off doing their thing. Contempt charges will be filed. That ought to add kerosene to the fire, and yes, it will reflect at some level. I have learned that judge's decisions are based on how they feel that day -- if they got up on the wrong side of the bed, watch out.

Thanks for the words.

[sandi2]

Just popping in to say hi and let you know that I'm still thinking about you. Know you will be glad to get this pain behind you and move on with your life. Hope you will continue to post to us b/c it will help you, believe it or not. Just to come vent helps some people.

Don't forget to take as good of care of yourself as you can. That is very important.

Sandi2

[fitzge]

Hope you will continue to post to us b/c it will help you, believe it or not. Just to come vent helps some people.Sandi2

Sandi

I shall continue to post. In someways, I've used this like a journal that I've allowed others to see and comment on. I've had awhile to contemplate my situation, and I pretty much know which way the train is heading and what I have to do.

[sandi2]

I think you are right, but remember that we are family here and we will listen whenever you want to talk. If we can think of something to say to help give you hope, then we will. There are so many that have been through what you are facing. I have not been there but I think it is very important for you not to give up on living. Even though you may never have dreamed this would have happened, you still can have a good life if you chose to. But, you have to want it enough to go after it and not allow the pain of all this to eat you up alive and ruin any chance at having happiness that you deserve. Give yourself time to heal, but don't just wallow in it and if you get too depressed and get where you can't eat or sleep....don't be stubborn about going to the doctor to get help. Some people seem to think that is terrible, but as one doctor told me.....everyone needs a little help now and then. It is no disgrace. You have to stay healthy and you can't do that if you cannot sleep or if you get where you can't eat. So, do watch that. In fact, if you were to just make it part of your "healing process" to exercise and eat a healty diet plan and if you can't sleep, then try some over the counter sleep aids and if that doesn't work....go to the doctor. Some depression is normal b/c the end of a M is like a death, but if the depression lingers too long or gets too bad, please don't wait around too long before you do something about seeing a doctor. I think I have repeated myself a dozen times! Maybe I need to see one too!

Talk to you later,
Sandi

[fitzge]

Sandi

Excellent words, thank you. I know one of the outcomes of this situation could be that I end up a bitter old man. Since I don't want that, I hope it doesn't happen. Early on, I figured out I was not going to "gut" my way through this. Went to the doctor for the standard physical stuff, explained my situation, and got some "happy" pills. They don't really make me happy, of course, but I am less unhappy.