[quote=confusedinpa] No more R talks like above from you anymore. She needs to start the talks and for now. Don't contact her first anymore either. It's going to be a waiting game for you now as she deals with all of this and the best thing you can do is nothing at all. Every time you say something you run the risk of slipping plus I'm sure she expects more of the same anyway. You stopping R talks will help her not feel pressure and surprise her as well.
Guess I fell into the trap where she started to talk about it and I got carried away. I'm just worried about being too cold/closed off as that was the big issue we had.
Thanks for your encouragement
It means a lot to know someone is trying to support me
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
