Great comment SteveinTN. I watched the movie and read the book. It WAS powerful. I..you..WE...did almost everything we should have in the movie and sometimes there is just too much damage....or..even simpler....we were not well matched.

Bottomline..the movie was a powerful tool for us to carry with us and use in future relationships, whether it be with someone better paired for us...or...for some....a WAW that chooses to return and do the work.

I can empathize with ping because..I believe...my STBXW's walls are even higher than his W's anger-wise. We all used the tools we had at the time we were married. We have clarity now and new tools. We have not failed. We learned.

Failure....would be to refuse to make the changes we should and not use those lessons we learned here to make a better life for ourselves and our children.

Stay strong ping. We are praying.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;