Trying to let go........with love!

[glamgirl]

If you don't feel up to going this weekend then don't. You need to protect yourself.

I remember trying to hold my h's hand in the car long time ago. He just pulled his hand away. We always held hands in the car. When the love tank is empty they have nothing to give.

It's all the loving unconditionally, being kind and loving that would bring your h home. Why would he want to be with you if you bring up all that he has done.

I know you want to say what's on your mind, but ask yourself how is that helping you? Right now your h could care less. He doesn't want to hear it. I would just forever hold my peace. Now that doesn't mean that further along in this journey that you wouldn't have the opportunity to speak more openly then. It's just right now, the timing is not good.

Forget about any affection right now. Your h is far from it. He needs to feel loving towards you, before that can happen. He can't feel those loving thoughts, when you are pressing him why can't we work on us, why did you do this, look what you have done. Can you see how these statments are not helping your h?

The C session could be a good thing if YOU allow. Many times early on in C, I just sat and listened and let my h lead. Boy did I bite my tongue, but I thought it was best at the time.

When we first went to C, my h sat away from me like space between us on the couch, now he sits right next to me holding my hand or arm. You see SC how time CAN change one's perspective.

You don't have to agree with all that your h is doing or saying, but you don't have to respond or challenge it either. Be neutral and see how it goes.

If you go this weekend, you will need to be upbeat and not allow the sadness to creep in.