Oh my, the shoe fantasy played out in real life, where to begin. Thank you DQ for preparing me for the resistance from her. I would have been caught off guard and no telling what would have happened. It could have easily ruined my mood if I had let it. It almost did a few times but then I reminded myself I'm going to have fun with this. I think I heard every imaginable reason, excuse and argument from her.
The difference is OWNING your mood
Her most common argument against this was and I heard different variations of this one many many times: "We don't need to be spending money on a pair of shoes for me, we should get you something."
I snapped back with a big smile on my face every time: "This IS a present for me."
She was clearly uncomfortable throughout and every so often I would tell her if she really didn't want to do this that she didn't have to. It's just a light hearted fun thing, let's have fun with this. After her shooting down many choices of mine (too high, straps hurt, too tight, too slutty, too loose) we finally settled on a pair that we both liked (well, I liked them and I think she could live with them) we headed home.
Its a matter of judgement whether and how often to say this - I'm sure you can see why.
It was a battle of wills, it took sheer will power from me to not just throw in the towel on this shoe adventure. I think she was wondering why all of her normal tactics hadn't dissuaded me by now. HeHe... she didn't know it was the self assured "new me", I won't back down anymore.
By not worrying what her mood was, I really had fun. A few roller coaster moments where I could have lost it but I held on. Her mood BTW was not so great... Oh well her loss. I think it was her frustration that I would not give this one up.
This is what its all about - having a plan, and having the confidence and will to carry it off despite her "testing".
When we got home we had about 90 minutes of "private time" together. The first 40-50 minutes was a nice sensual massage for her after she had modeled her new shoes for me. This was my favorite part of our afternoon together. I just love touching her and enjoyed doing this for her too.
By the time we ML she was completely relaxed and ready for me. We both had O's. I even had a second O before we were through. Yipee! I was the best lover I could possibly be for her and that made me feel good.
A tiny part of me still wanted for her mood to be better but overall I had a very nice birthday.
I understand that nagging thought - but its emotional fusion i.e. I'm not happy unless you're happy (and of course the reverse is also true - as you know) - the new you and the new way is the way to go. It may not be what you fantasized about, but Cinco -its real and you're making it happen - that is what being a Man is all about, and that has an excitement all of its own.
You've seen how very different your life can be with just one day of owning yourself and your emotions. Keep at it, keep pushing, keep penetrating. She wants it.
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
- as you know) - the new you and the new way is the way to go. It may not be what you fantasized about, but Cinco -its real and you're making it happen - that is what being a Man is all about, and that has an excitement all of its own.
