It's been quite a while since I'v posted on here. Paperwork for the divorce was initiated by W back in October and I have also filed a response to that. Not sure how much longer it will take, but we still need to come to an agreement on the financial stuff and haven't even been in front of a judge yet. W is still seeing the OG and is quite open about it. His kids and our kids play together on her weeks with them. He has been introduced to her family and has dinner there, etc, etc. That's all fine. I'm not concerned any longer about what she does, but I am a bit concerned for the example this is setting for the kids. It all seems a bit too soon for my tastes.
Here's the latest drama... My D's birthday is in a couple of weeks. There will be a party at a local, crafty type of place. My D said she wants her new friends (the OG's kids) to come to the party. I have no problem with that, but then my W tells me (via email) that the OG will bring the kids to the party. I almost lost it. I told her that I thought it was completely inappropriate for my first meeting with him to be at our daughter's birthday party. She replied that his son won't go without him and that she saw no other way. She wants to make daughter happy and there won't ever be an 'appropriate' time or place. I replied that she needs to find another way to get the kids there and that if he will be there I will not. And as far as an 'appropriate' time or place, I would think it would be some time AFTER the divorce is settled.
Anyone have any suggestions here? I really don't want to screw up her birthday party, but I really don't think I can maintain my self control if he is there at the party. It just feels to me that it is so disrespectful for her to force me into that situation in front of friends and family at this point in time.
