"He wants us to stay with this "friend" thing. He said he wants a divorce but he doesn't want to RUSH into a divorce. ??? "
Gosh, as much as this doesn't really seem like the "answer" you wanted, I really believe that this is a good thing. I know that you would've wanted him to not add the fact that he wants divorce. But remember .. he is still processing all of the OM issue.
Not that I should be giving advice. I have my own set of huge problems/issues. But .. I am remembering back from when I was successful in DBing ..
BTW, H4U commented to you, on his thread, that he would give you some input if you were interested.
Take some deep breaths .. try to have a good day/weekend!
