Here's a thought. You and your husband have two counselors focused on helping you two see where you fit together now. They are professional cheerleaders who are also the coaches setting up the plays.
The 'game' can't be won with the teammates focused on each other's shortcomings rather than the goal. The 'game' falls apart if each teammate runs toward an opposite goal.
What is the game, what is the goal, where are you?
I see it as more of a "WTF?" statement of clarity.
As your spouse is now, he will always fail based on your estimation. The same is true in how he sees you.
What is the goal.. not what's easy to state: To be a family for the children.
Strip away the drama, pain, buttons pushed and stand naked before the mirror. Look in the mirror and find your answers.
