SRTTF, You are so kind to come on my thread and offer support. I feel guilty for whining when you have it so much more difficult. I don't know what I can say to ease your pain, but I will give my own .02
I think you need to take action to take care of you and your D financially. It sounds that your H isn't too worried about it, and I don't think you want him to come back in the state that he is in. I live in MN too, so I know there is such a thing as legal separation and I think you can file for that and would be allowed shild support. Have you looked into a L?
I can't imagine how difficult this time is for you. I am learning that God really doesn't answer our prayers in the timeframe and manner that we want. Please don't give up on him and remember that he wants you to be taken care of and happy. One of my favorite songs to listen to when I am having a hard time is "Call on Jesus" by Nicole Mullen. IDK why but it just speaks to me. Maybe it will call to you as well.
Please take care of yourself and hang in there. God Bless!
