Either the 2x4 or 4x4 would work fine. I do consider myself lucky that I can try the DB techniques. And the truth is that we have made strides. But I always get ahead of myself, get dissappointed, and then back pedal. I actually started crying tonight and I don't want to be that person. I don't want H to see that he still has that effect on me. It makes me just as angry at myself as I am at him.