Matilda and Naej, I haven't decided if I should go alone to therapy the first time, or should invite her. She has never wanted to go in the past. Her stance is that I have the issues, and that I should work on them. If she were to agree to go, I'm not sure what her motive would be.
I went to my Thursday night dance lesson tonight by myself. I told her my intention, and waited to see her response. She made plans with someone in the dance community for dinner and salsa dancing afterwards. My dance lesson was so much more enjoyable without her there. I continue to build my network in the ballroom and swing community.
I've decided to take responsibility for developing my dance skills, and will include my wife as a part of it to the extent she wants. However, I won't think of it as a partnership.
I will plan my dance week in terms of what I want to practice, and where I want to network. It may or may not be the same place my W wants to go. I will let my W know my intent, and make a decision based on her response.
I admit I'm struggling with goodwill and compassion at the moment. Civility is about all I can muster at this time. I can do GAL and experience joy with making new friends in the dance community and enjoying my sheep puppy dog. I can also keep an open mind about the situation, and not get too attached to things having to be a certain way.
I'm also enjoying my new office location. I'm with a larger community than I was before. I'm enjoying the comradery of colleagues in a professional community.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
