Well, you get a gold star from me too Mr. M! And BTW, just so you and Puppy will understand......I did not mean that I thought what you would say to her about not having anymore to talk about was a threat or controlling in my eyes. I said that "she" would probably see it that way or use it as her excuse. I knew you were using is as a boundry. I did want you to be careful not to close a door completely shut where you would have to backslide to be able to talk to her anymore. I know how easily it is to make a statement similar to that and then regret it later. If you can stick to it.....and I think you can if she dates other men......then she will sit up and notice. I am a little suprised that she did not buck up about you saying that, but after reading through your post, I decided that she almost saw it as you giving her your blessings to go do whatever and that you would not be bothering her. So, expect her to date and go a little wild b/c I think she wants to experience living young and free again. Hope you will just go dark and not even try to keep up with what her next moves are b/c it will probably just get you down. Focus on you and GAL for yourself.
No, I did not see it as a threat. More like a "promise" (lol). Apparently, it did not bother her b/c she is set on dating other men. That tells me a lot....how about you? As far the hard sobbing, it was either b/c she was guilty of a whole lot more than she was confessing or else she called herself really telling you good-bye (in her mind). I don't think she would have been that out of control over a few phone calls.
Again, I join the others in saying you did a terrific job! Now, the very tough stuff begins. Saying what you did was one thing, but sticking to it while she is actually out with other men.....that will be the real test for you.
You made no mistakes where I can see......so time to change your name.
Take care of yourself, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
