H4U, go ahead. 2x4 me. I can take it. I understand that he is finding it hard to trust me. I don't blame him in the least. I'm sure I would feel the same way. Anyway. Go ahead and have a round. \:\) I am one of those people who loves 5 million ways to look at things. Ever take an Enneagram personality test? I am a six. To the core.

Ahh, Puppy. I'm sorry we are women. But if we were men, you wouldn't like us so much.

Okay. If she knows or if you have told her or if she has realized she has self esteem problems, telling her she is smart probably comes across as fake. You are trying to build up her esteem (admirable) in an honest fake way. You have excellent intentions. But not every stitch is an opportunity for you to tell her how smart she is. I would be REAL with her. Tell her thank you and that it slipped your mind. That will help her selfesteem because she pointed out something you didn't see. She has to see those things in herself. You can't build her esteem for her.

I really think just be real...and if you have to think to throw her a compliment (bone), then don't. We're women, we can sniff out fakeness (is that a word??) a mile away. Because other women have been treating us fakely (???) since the day we were born. "What gorgeous hair!!" (Geez, doesn't she know that blue is really not her color???) We just want you to be honest and real and to not hesitate.

Same stitch. Change places and she tells you that in the same tone and context. Different?

Fulghum: "Why do you laugh? Change the name and the story is told of you."

;\)

Melissa

"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."

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