Ping, I got the same vibe as Amy on your post. If you were ready to end the relationship with your girlfriend because of what is at this point simply a small possibility, then you know what needs to be done there.
Please do not stay with your GF just because your W isn't coming around, it just isn't the right thing to do. Your decision/thought that you needed to break it off, speaks huge volumes.
I also think you don't need to ask or talk about reconciliation, future crystal balls, or retroveille with your x-wife. Cocoons come off at different paces on butterflies. If you get to anxious and try and break the chrysalis, you can kill the emerging butterfly. Let the pace come at whatever speed God wants it to. You have seen something that has sparked your interest, that should say enough to you to know what you need to do to move ahead. Sit back and see if she comes out more or not. Don't jump the gun, don't bite the dangling carrot, just sit back and if she is truly emerging you will get to play witness.
So try not to be reactive and not to get to far ahead of yourself ok. Just give yourself some time and space to watch as things progress without anyone possibly getting hurt.
