No advice from moi.....just reading along and following the saga. on some days (like today), I check on you before I check my e-mails.
Anyhow, I find it interesting that he could not answer the hypothetical question; "what if you did not have kids"? To me that speaks volumes. I also wonder if you were asked that same question? I have a hunch a know the answer to that. Perhaps that is the litmus test of all this. Would any of us attempt to reconcile if there are or were no kids involved? If the answer is no.....then Houston we have a problem.