NW, I second everything that V just said. We've all been there for one another through a lot of this and have gotten to know one another's strengths and moments of sadness...and I can safely say that I hear a lot of strength and calm in your voice. It's sad, this journey of learning that we go on - but for some reason each of us chose a partner that not only needed something from us for their journey - but that also provided something for us - something that helped us develop the tools to figure out where we are now.
Like you, I am heading toward divorce - though, unlike you and V, B doesn't use the word - rather she seems to live in a sort of self-imposed limbo that I think she wants me to maintain...and I just cannot do that for her any longer.
You are right to focus on yourself and your son - and I'm glad that she realizes that your son is better off with you. I have no doubt about that. And, yes, you will always have those memories you shared...and now you are preparing for new memories...since life never stops, it never stops, and that's why we should never stop learning and paying attention to the lessons it has to offer.
You may feel some moments of profound sorrow in the days ahead - you may not - but if you do, just allow yourself to feel what you have to feel..no matter how much it hurts, it will never be more than you can handle...I know that without a doubt.
While I love to hear your positive energy and your strength...please don't ever hold back on sharing with us when you are feeling different emotions as well...as much as a we embrace your incredible strength, we are also there for you when you need us, my friend. And you have a lot of friends here in this DB world and outside of it.
You're a blessed man, NW. So too is your son to have you as his father.
