MWG, I think awhile back someone said something about you getting defensive when facts are pointed out. I just wonder why that is, what are you afraid of really. You v recently cooked him a special meal and countless times you have made our mouths water with food that you are preparing-even Thanksgiving, and Christmas not all that long ago. You say you don't wont to talk to him when he's in a mood? when isn't he. Snodderlys post was bang on he reads you like a book. I would suggest your son does to-learned behaviour. I know you are a stander but what sort of marriage do you actually envisage. You say it doesn,t bother you if he comes or not. How peaceful it is when he's not there. You don't want to talk to him. How can this marriage ever be restored to the level that a true mariage is meant to be. Would you be happy if he just left the OW but didn't actually move home?
You as well as him both have to step up and move out of this "comfort" zone you are both in. This game has gone on far too long. Please take time to review things.
