I have to agree that the example above was not that great. It hurt and hit a nerve with me too. Not good. Like Jeff, I choose NOT to lose time with my kids.

I had told Jeff that I signed my son up for baseball clinic on Saturdays, 1-230P. It cuts into my time and also my time with D5. But my son needs the work. One of my N.U.T.S. is that my sone MUST be in at least one activity per season to stay healthy and active. Right now..it appears to be baseball. Quality of the time must exceed quantity at times.

So, Jeff, I agree, but, I think you need to first:
-tackle the REAL issue at hand and that is not being edged out unilaterally re: decision making.
-then...tell us here...what does S11 tell you he wants to do? Does he want to play baseball? Does her prefer soccer? lacrosse? swimming? golf? Let us know

I think EVERYONE would agree here, LBH or LBW,...that they MUST participate 50% in decisions regarding the welfare of their kids.

On the flipside Jeff...the kids need playdates...they need to develop skills and interact with others their age....they need to play. Is 100% dad (including me too Jeff)...too much saturation? Do we compromise their social skills for OUR emotional needs?

There is a balance, good buddy. I'm sure that..pretty soon...I'll be coming to you to ask similar stuff.

Sort it out....what is anger or frustration against my WAW? what are MY needs? what are my CHILDREN'S needs? how do I remove 'the little boy' inside and deal with XXX in a strong fashion with leadership and authority?

As Cunningham says, treat her justly.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;