Itsy, Sounds like your c is telling you correctly. You are still giving your xh way too much head space right now. It's time now to turn the focus completely back on to you and your family. Your xh is a very lost soul who will most likely be inquiring of family members for years to come what you are doing, etc. It's their curiosity...trying to compare where we are with were they are.
Cut the apron string and send him sailing through the room. Set yourself free and enjoy your life.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
