Lucky....Re: being cruel....LOL! I know, and I do apologize. I had a long post a while back called "DQ's sex blog". I gots lots of "you're being cruel" comments back then. But I justify it this way: there IS great sex out there for people who can figure this stuff out. I can be a beacon or lighthouse for some of you! If you go back and read my sex blog (there was also a sex blog #2) you will read that some of my advice really did help others to have some great sex! One of the benefits of having such a great sex life, but comparing it to my SSM, is that I can now identify what works and what doesn't. Also, my fiance is my sexual mentor, and I can pass along things he has learned and has taught me....
For instance, all of the NMMNG books and the other books that urge a man to assert his masculinity, and assure the men that this will actually turn his woman ON not OFF....well I can attest to this, because my ex-h was a nice guy, and my fiance is the quintessential self-assured, sexually confident man. I now know and understand what this picture looks like. And I can feel within my body just "why" this makes me turned on, compared to the nice guy who never turned me on.
Anyway dear....hopefully YOU will soon have stories to share that are cruel to the others around here! LOL!
If you have the time, go back and find my blogs....that is, if you want to blush and possibly have to be all turned on and worked up...hee hee!
Hmmm....I just tried to find those old posts, and there seems to be limited past post pages available....does any one know how to go back further and find older posts? I tried both by looking in the past pages of SSM forum and also looking a my own page of posts??
Hmmm....I just tried to find those old posts, and there seems to be limited past post pages available....does any one know how to go back further and find older posts? I tried both by looking in the past pages of SSM forum and also looking a my own page of posts??
DQ
Display Options att he bottom of the page. it says Change on the side. You click on it and choose how far back you want to go. Hope that helps.
I am so glad to hear things are on the "up" for you. * wink wink ** hee hee hee* Do you do Tantric? Hope to see you post more. Love, Ali Show Topics
Hi darling Ali...yes we do tantric exercises, plus a lot of our own special magical rituals, etc. Its all about connection, and zero about orgasm. Orgasms are easy and unfulfilling. Connection requires true intimacy and effort, and is VERY fulfilling. True connection can cause orgams though, so its not like we don't have them, too.
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I will go and see if I can follow your directions and post a link for Lucky of my old blogs.
DQ~ Its all about connection, and zero about orgasm
AMEN!!~!!
I just recently got him to agree with this. I have been saying this for Y-E-A-R-S!!!!!!!!!
O IS NOT THE END ALL BE ALL.... THERE IS SO MUCH UNTAPPED POTENTIAL. yeah if we have one great ... but if we dont great too . As long as there was connection.
The good work we did this weekend on our relationship is still holding! Yay!
This morning we had something happen that could have turned into an ugly fight. But instead, it turned into a gateway to better understanding of each other. Hurrah! We both have really had to learn and try harder to achieve this....but it really is beginning to work.
This was a basic one for us: I am upset about something that I need to express to him, but usually his response is to be defensive and offer me reasons why I shouldn't be upset (typical mars/venus thing). But then I would get mad about him not hearing me, then he would get defensive, then I would get madder, then a fight would ensue.
But this morning it went like this...
I was upset about something that I needed to express to him. I expressed it, but in a "too emotional" way. He began to tell me why I shouldn't be upset. At this point, I did not get mad, but just asked him to try again, that he hadn't really heard me, would he please try again to just "hear" me versus listen for the part where he feels he is supposed to "fix" my problem. He agreed, so I spoke again, and got out what I am upset about. This time he really listened, really heard me, and by doing this, he DID "fix" my problem! My problem was that I needed him to HEAR ME. By hearing me, he fixed it.
Yay for us!
It seems so basic, but we've both been struggling with this for a long time. He really did great this morning with this one, and not only did he "fix" my problem of not feeling heard, he also "fixed" the meat and bones of the actual issue I was talking about. He had to yield to me and be more flexible about a house remodel decision in order to do this, and he has been working on yeilding more lately. This morning, it all fell into place the way it should (for a couple who is actively working on this dynamic).
THERE IS SO MUCH UNTAPPED POTENTIAL.