Thanks for the words of comfort. I am trying really hard to keep my head up and to do the right thing with DB but it is so hard isn't it? Like today, I kinda feel like I might have made a mistake but who knows anymore, I sent H a text that said I MISS U! It came about even though I was suppose to be doing NC today but I got an email from a co-worker and was speaking to her about my marriage situation. She has been married for several years and have great faith. Anyway her email was a list of three phrases that can enrich every relationship and one was "I miss you". And it goes on to say, "Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengtherend if couples simply and sincerely said to each other I miss you. This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired, and loved." So I texted my H and then I questioned myself maybe I should have, that's pursuing behavior, etc. H did text me back I miss u too. But still, you know. Ah, its all so confusing at times.
Um, not really, Vicky. Seriously -- it's hard to PULL OFF, but it's not really confusing at all. You knew this was the wrong thing to do, or didn't you??? I think you DID know it was wrong, but you did it anyway, to make yourself feel good.
You set yourself back.
You know what they say about the definition of stupidity, Vicky. If you keep doing that, you WON'T get any different results. DBing is all about doing what works, and throwing out what doesn't.
Self-restraint, dear. And if you need to, COME ON HERE FIRST, and we'll talk you down off the ledge and smack some sense into you!!!
