Thanks for the advice. That's pretty much my plan. However, she truly does need some sort of help whether we end up divorced or not. She blames her mental state on our marriage, but, while I'm sure it isn't helping, I really think that the situation works both ways-a sort of chicken-and-egg argument. It seems as if she is incapable of solving problems in the relationship while in her state of mind, yet I think these same marital problems she feel incapable of solving are contributing to her state of mind. This is why I feel that a separation might be a good idea. I think that she is miserable in her life situation right now and I believe that every time she sees me it ignites a little spark of resentment towards me for her (our) situation. I think all that spark needs is a little bit of fuel (me getting laid off, etc.) to ignite into a blazing fire. Perhaps with time to truly step away, without me lingering as a focus every time something negative comes along, perhaps she could see these things as obstacles rather than "poison in her veins." (her words)
