My wife is fairly young, and I don't think she really understands this whole process. She is allowing herself to be led by a lawyer.
She has been acting nicer since I've disengaged. I've quit initiating contact, I'm waiting 10-15 minutes before responding to text messages, and I'm basically acting nice/cordial in asking how her day was, etc.
Ultimately she is just going to blow through a bunch of money, cause a bunch of hurt feelings, and basically create an unhealthy environment between our families. I don't know why she is doing what she is doing outside of spite.
I'm having to basically disengage as much as I can outside of seeing/checking on my daughter each day. My wife still (at the moment) comes to my house on Mondays/Wednesdays in order to watch my children while I'm in class.
She tries to make small talk, and I engage in how far she wants to go and no more. Basically I'm shutting down on her emotionally, and I'm not sure if she thinks that is a good thing or not. All I know is that I'm no longer fueling her fire by talking about our relationship. However - if this divorce turns ugly I'm pretty sure that will be enough fuel for her.
Any more advice on how to walk a tight rope?
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
