A new phase..Future uncertain-imagine that!

[Vdad]

All,

Well my original thread locked out. So I will start this one so I can stay in communication with all the awesome folks that have helped me so much through all of this.

So update: I am working on setting up my new place. I will be moving out the weekend after next if all goes smoothly. We still have to talk with the kids (younger sons-12,9,7), that will be tough.

She is working on getting a job. This isn't going to be easy in this market. She continues to fairly unpredictable in doing what she says she's going to do. Last night she took my daughter to youth group at 6pm. She told me she would visit her friend while SD was at the group and they would be home after. So she dropped SD and her friend off went to her friend's house, left that friend's house went to another friends house and another Mom dropped my daughter off back at home. She spent the night at 2nd friend's house. Came dragging in right after the kid's got up for school at 6AM said she fell asleep on the couch at 2nd friends house.

I am really hurting for her. She is just so not the person I have known all these years. She seems so lost. I know I have to let her sort all of this out. Any suggestions on how to help her without conflicting with DBing? Is just letting her deal with all of this herself the best policy? Detach and let her grow through this?

Puppy, Mel, 25,?

Jeff