Woo hoo! Sexy hot shoes and sex, too....can't beat that on your birthday, eh?? (wink wink)
No seriously, GREAT JOB! I'm so glad you kept my advice in mind and just plowed through her trying to avoid your request. Of course we all understand that ideally, you would want her to ENJOY the shoes for herself and to actually participate in a way that shows that SHE wants it too...not just a birthday favor for you.
But...lets give it time...she might find that place within herself. She might not, but she still might. All hope is not lost just yet! The more you read and apply the NMMNG principals, the more she will respond to it.
Remember too that she is simply stuck in her ways. She hasn't had any real reason to change or move out of her comfort zone. NOW she might have a reason. The changes in YOU might provoke positive changes in her.
But even if they don't, your changes are for you anyway, and will benefit you for the rest of your life.
I do want to say this: please give your wife some extra praises for being a good sport about the shoes. Most men don't realize just how painfully horrible wearing these types of shoes can be. You have to be really determined to wear them in order to get used to the pain of wearing them. That is why she wears birks....she wants to be comfortable. Big ol' slutty 4" high heels are not only uncomfortable, they are actually like little torture devices! So my point is....if they felt comfy like birks, she might just wear them! You need to see this side of that particular equation in order to fully understand her. It may be that she wishes she could wear sexy shoes and she wouldn't mind looking sexy, but she just cannot bear the pain of them. So give her some extra thanks today, but not in a groveling way....in a self-assured way that really honors the gift she gave you by getting them and wearing them for you.
She might make noises about how she really didn't want to. Just ignore them and thank her again and drop it.
Another NMMNG tip....don't talk to her about how much you appreciated the sex. You can just assume she had great sex too and that you both received a great gift from each other. Thanking a woman for sex implies that she "gave" you sex. Lets stop giving that impression at all. From now on, you both gave your bodies to each other in an act of sex, and there is no need to "thank" her for it. You can comment on how great the sex was, but only if you give off an air of confidence. If you can't do that yet without sounding grateful for the sex, then just say nothing.
But darlin'....I really AM so happy for you about the shoes! I know you have been wanting that for a long time!
