and thats the heart of it all i guess. when this all started i was a yelling mess who needed to change for myself and my W. well after 13 months she has moved into the abuseive section of our marrage ( passive agressive but still abusive) while i have changed. the thing to remember is this is not my W at all. i am hopeing she comes out of it and desided to work on us but we have a littel over 100 days left to our marrage. so i guess it will take a huge internel for her to do this. As i said the new her views me as a anxiety, not a benifit. we have never got back to square one. we were closer there when she before she moved out,but now the stress of a M is more then trumped by the new friends new man, new life.
