So, On New Years Day my wife came home from having spent the night with her girlfriends at a hotel party. She had taken off her rings. She told me she wanted to separate. Long story short, I moved out on the 16th of Jan. By the following Friday night, she had taken some guy home that she knew for about a week. Totally lied to me, then did it again the next week.
I know why she was acting out. I was not a very nice guy to be with over the past year. I accept that I pushed her to this point. Now the rest of the story...
I didn't want this marriage to end. I believe there is too much worth saving. (I did everything wrong prior to reading the DR, it was like the book was describing my daily activities).
I implemented the "Last Resort" last Saturday, but with a kicker. I told her "if divorce is what you really want, I'm ready to give you your freedom, but if you think there is any chance of fixing this, then we can't be with other people" (I know i broke the rule, but she was giving tiny signs of interest).
Well, fast forward to today.
Monday- She calls me and says that she isnt going to see the OM anymore. (I said, "thanks for taking that step of faith")
Tuesday- She calls and mentions a "Weekend to remember" marriage fixing seminar. This thing includes a "date night" on Valentines Day of all things (talk about pressure)I said I was all for it.
Weds- She has a minor CS procedure, and calls me to come be with her.
So, like I asked, am I wrong to be nervous that this change happened so quickly? My goals started ticking off as hit so fast it was like a pinball machine. I DONT WANT TO SCREW THIS UP AND IT IS SCARING THE HELL OUT OF ME!
I can't be the guy I was. Why would I want to. I don't want to go back to the way things were. That's what got me here.
