\My wife is going to leave me in 5 days--help!

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Hello all,\
I am in a very bad state right now. I am in Amsterdam returning from a tour in Iraq and was told by my wife two days ago that she is leaving me. She has set it up for me to stay in the house with my 12 year old daughter and she is moving to an apartment. I asked her why and she said she needed to be alone and that she didn't love me the same way that she used to. I have been gone for about a year. I asked her if there was someone else, she said no but that she had been recieving a lot of attention lately and enjoyed it and once we are divorced she would seek to be with other men. Wow, that hurt. Told me to man up--very cruel in my mind. I am completely lost. I have not bought the divorce busting books yet but intend to do so very soon. I have been reading this site for a few months now as I was looking to better my marraige when I got home. I think she is not telling the truth and suspect she has cheated on me--man does it hurt bad! I have done all the wrong things in the last few days--begged, pleaded, cried, tried to reason, point out that its going to scar my daughter, etc. She has agreed to marraige counseling when I return but said she didn't have to live there to do so. We have been together for 15 years. This is my first marraige and her second. I have a stepson who is 19 and is leaving on the same day as she is to go to another state. He has been a point of contention for a long time. My wife has told me she will know in the first two days wether she is leaving or not. I really am lost and would appreciate any suggestions and/or thoughts.
John

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