As I see it. Your current lady (CL) seems to be a decent woman who is also in the 'letting go' part of the divorce.
So, if her husband were to come to her with a similar situation, what would she do? She probably doesn't know, and that's ok.
The thing is, as others before me have said, what do YOU want?
I mean, really, your current lady gives you a feeling of worth, of value. However, is that all you need? Or, do you need a feeling of family? Of commitment?
Yet, the struggle is this: Can you trust XW to give that commitment, or is she just using you because, let's face it, you've always rescued her.
DO NOT put any faith in anything I said about 'using you' because I just don't know. Just use the 48 hour rule and think about it, ok? Only you know the truth. We're just cheerleaders on the sidelines.
