I just looked at this post and realized that some folks might think that what I meant by gender roles is that I like to wear pretty lace dresses and bonnets. No that is not what I mean.
I mean that where my wife grew up, men are stoics and their only way to escape the drudgery of the life before them is to become suicidal drunks. Though my wife does not want me to be this way, she felt very unsafe that I talked about my worries and didn't hold a steady job in the past.
