I stopped working overtime and starting going on playdates with my girlfriends and their kids. My kids are making new friends, and now I am opening up even more doors to GAL. When H backed out of a dinner date, I told him 'no big deal' and went out with a girlfriend instead. H didn't think I was waiting a home pining for him.
I also started running again. I've lost 30 pounds, my kids see how important exercise is, and I am training for a 1/2 marathon. My H tells me constantly how proud he is and how good I look.
