Aww, ((((Kevin)))), I wish I had answers for you. I was upset, but I was keeping it in because he was overseas, and it was my part to play dutiful wife and not let on that anything was wrong. but towards the time of him coming home, i knew that i couldn't wait until he was home and then be like, oh yeah, i'm leaving you. that wasn't right either. Lord, none a friggin bit of it was right. I thought i was mad at him for the choices we had made in the marriage, but really, i was mad, pissed off, and disappointed in myself and just taking it out on him.
she knows damn good and well she was wrong. she prolly knows she ought to be ashamed of herself. OTHER THAN THIS INSTANCE, WHAT WOULD YOU SAY HER MORALS WERE? I mean, how was she brought up? Did you always trust her to make the right decisions before this? Was she the person you could always depend on to do the right thing? If so, then i think her guilt is what you are *paying* for. If not, then i think she is just selfish and doesn't care about what's right or wrong, as long as she is happy she can justify it.
I don't know Kevin. It's hard to answer. I didn't hate my H so much that I couldn't be seen in public with him. But he didn't push my buttons like I know you are pushing hers. Sorry for the 2x4. I felt guilty that I couldn't be what he deserved. But I knew that wasn't his fault, too. As hurt as we both have been, I did try very hard to maintain some objectivity to the stitch. I may not have succeeded very well, but I have tried to be the first to say "I crossed the line" or "I was too emotional" or whatever.
dunno.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
Sorry for the 2x4. I felt guilty that I couldn't be what he deserved. But I knew that wasn't his fault, too. As hurt as we both have been, I did try very hard to maintain some objectivity to the stitch. I may not have succeeded very well, but I have tried to be the first to say "I crossed the line" or "I was too emotional" or whatever. 
