Yes, I think we all get apprehensive & want an equal partner as well.
Even though, things are progressing slow for you, it seems you are on the right path. I'm sure this is where patience becomes most important. Your W is still feeling things out & sorting things out in her own life. So that is good. Don't know if your W is on the path to reconciling, but for the moment she seems to be on the path of being friends and being nice to you. Many would give anything for just that alone.
Don't listen to U2 much, but always liked their War albumn.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)