WDID: She sure missed out on you, Jeff. I'm so glad for your kids, though. They are lucky to have you. I just got the Love Languages Book for CHildren and am reading that. I love my son more than anything and show him often, but that book gives you a way to look at it and refreshes those ideas. Not that you need it. Just a good read.

Thanks WDID, my WAS is messed up, thinking that the grass is greener on the other side, I feel sorry for her sometimes.. I'll have to check out that book Thank you again

MC: Just like my wife, she cycles in the amount of time that she wants with the kids. So if you're agreement is written that you'll let her have the kids upon request; you'll always be a slave to her whims. It's time to let go of that. Let her suffer the consequences of her behavior and grow up. You and I have been too nice in dealing with our wayward spouses I know I need to set a regular schedule and then I think I can just hire a babysitter if I need one. (I like waking up hearing the kids running through the house, cooking breakfast for everyone) Yes we have been nice, but what other option do we have, let them be the bad, rude, selfish, self centered, crazy, unstable ones.

Sara, I haven't forgotten you, I keep you in my prayers. I feel the same way about reading everyones situation, seeing the pain and confusion.

I signed the D paperwork today - D should be done by 2-10-09 I really never had a L, but on the final paperwork, I got one to review what W's L put together, his exact words were "you did good" meaning I negotiated a good settlement for myself.

I still cannot believe it all its all so strange I'll be divorced by the end of the month \:\(

Thank you for checking in on me.

M45
W41
M10.75 years
D9, D7, D7, S6
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
W files for D 07/18/08