I had to take a step back from the forum for a bit. I have not seen my wife for over 3 months and I don't feel it even registers with her. She has been coming and going as she pleases from the house, and I asked her to come when I am there but she has ignored my request so I changed the locks a week ago. We talked the other day, our usual once a month conversation, because she wants her mail. I sort of baited her to cook me dinner and she gave me every excuse under the sun, which eventually ended with a txt message from her for me to leave her alone. I immediately called and txt her back as to what that meant and got no response. She called two days later about her mail and when I asked about the txt she said it txt was referring to me asking her to cook for me she didn't mean it that way. Anyway, I am so angry at this stage I don't want to give her the mail. She is only calling because she needs something. I am tired; she needs to fend for herself on every level. I just want to detach and let go and let GOD and stop these meaningless conversations. These are the things that bother me the most if you guys could lend a thought or suggestion I would appreciate it.
Is it unfair/damaging for me to ask about/for boundaries or the specifics of our separation while in the LRT? We never had a meaningful adult conversation about this other than her saying she needed to find herself.
If I detach, does that mean no communication at all, even on special days? Our anniversary is coming up
I know it's is not good to assume so is it wrong for me to inquire through her or on my own if there is someone else at this point in the game? No proof, but its painfully obvious
I have not been to church since our separation and I do not wish to or feel I have to find another church, not sure what to do.
We are getting close to pushing a year and its getting lonely out here. I want nothing more than for our M to work. I have just been evoking my faith trying to hold on but it's getting harder suppressing the wanting to be wanted feeling.
She has not talked divorce nor given me back the dissolution papers but says we failed and we have gone as far as we can go. Our last talk she said "just let it work itself out". What is she really saying?
