I wish I weren't too. But she is giving me no option. She refuses to move forward together in the same house at this point. She seems very intent on living her own life for a time until she can process all of this. She will live in the house until the BK completes and the stay on the home is lifted. 6-90 days.
She tells me that if we don't separate she will file for divorce so I don't know what choice I have. I would rather go out now and secure something that works for me now than wait for the foreclosure to comlete and hope there is something decent out there. The house feels horrible to me and I need to get a fresh start on my own terms. Plus the house I am secureing is big enough for all of us if we can piece things back together. So there is some thought to all of this.
Not sure about OM. I agree about the hanging on. That is out of my hands now. I have to become the better option. SHe needs to see me like she did when she fell in love. Don't see how that is possible in the current sitch.
I hate all of this but I have to think differntly for myself and my boys now. She will have to work through this on her own. I am there for her where I can be but I intend to detach as soon as I am out. If she takes up with OM or someone else that will be her decision. I can only DB and be patient now.
Tough times ahead thats for sure.
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
