I'm furious at your h....how dare he be angry because the kids aren't there. Did he expect them to be sitting around waiting for his highness to appear? People don't have time for that. He was texted a couple of times and no answer...shame on him. Time is running out on him and his behavior.
He is pulling further away from you because he's going into that dark place to hit bottom. He's running from himself, you, the family and the situation. He's going to hit bottom. You have to allow him to pull away to the far corners. Do not get sucked into that. There is no lifeline to bring him back on this next turn of the wheel. He's got to hit bottom and hard!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
