The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
HOnestly, I do not think I can sit and have a conversation with him because it makes my blood boil and I do not feel like having anything to do with him.
What do I do--write a letter? Sometimes I get these wacky thoughts racing in my brain that says to tell him if he does not text or contact any of us then we will call ow, or that i will forward her his texts he has sent me.........
I think I am going temporarily crazy.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I know that you won't do this, but if I were in your shoes I would state this to him: "h, since we are in desperate need of a car and you are not always available and you are not working at this time, the only solution is for you to move back in and be here to assist with the driving." We cannot continue w/the situation it is. Besides, you don't know when you will get that tax refund. You have two choices...confront him w/this situation or ask your fil for assistance. It's to the point that something has to give here for you and your family. He's been sitting in that stew pot long enough.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
MWG, you are justifiably angry right now you have far too much on your plate, whilst h has nothing. A short while ago you did speak up for yourself to him honestly and he seemed fine with it, you even said he told you that he wanted you to tell him what was troubling you or on your mind. I think I got that right, it was when Snod said he was far enough along to be told these things.
What happened in between? I just don't get it, he tells you to give up your job-why I don't know because then he starts griping about money. Surely he has sat back and done nothing with no responsibilty for anything for far too long. He really needs a wake up call but what. It seems to me he could pull the plug on what he pays for whenever he gets the urge so please look again at how you would deal with this IF the need arises. Take care of yourself. I am sorry you gave up your job, I know it was hard and pay lousy but it did get you out of the house and meeting other adults even for a bit of banter. That helps.
he just got here and is mad because they are not here. i told him that he had been texted but he never responded. sounds like he is going to leave if the kids are not around.
i am ignoring him because it seems he is pulling further away from me.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I hate that the burden is upon me at all times. Maybe I do have to talk to my FIL and set some of the record straight. H will not listen to me and will consider me to be a threat toward him. It is weird.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm furious at your h....how dare he be angry because the kids aren't there. Did he expect them to be sitting around waiting for his highness to appear? People don't have time for that. He was texted a couple of times and no answer...shame on him. Time is running out on him and his behavior.
He is pulling further away from you because he's going into that dark place to hit bottom. He's running from himself, you, the family and the situation. He's going to hit bottom. You have to allow him to pull away to the far corners. Do not get sucked into that. There is no lifeline to bring him back on this next turn of the wheel. He's got to hit bottom and hard!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
d15 just called me and said she needed a ride home. i told her i did not have a car but that her dad just got here.
i asked him if he could pick her up and he said all he ever does is be a taxi service can they all meet here at our house and i said her friends do not live in this neighborhood.
i think he really is pulling further away from me.............he is agitated. his own fault.our lives do not revolve around him.
Snodderly..so what do I do--just keep on the way I am? I feel like I want to blow up at him.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
