OK, but I should tell her that unless she cuts off all contact with OM then we have nothing to talk about, right? That's what I meant by a rundown of where I stand. I guess that's more of a boundary than anything.
Only if it's in response to some sort of half-assed fidelity promise from her. Otherwise, you've already told her this, and there's no sense reiterating it now. Learn to practice the art of NOT necessarily answering every issue/complaint she puts out on the table, at least not immediately. DO let her know she's been HEARD ... just maybe not ANSWERED, yet.
If that (some sort of partial promised no-contact, short of 100% no-contact, including full transparency) is NOT what the context of what she has to say, then just merely wait for the day and convo where it is. Trust me, it will be sooner, rather than later, esp. if you hold your ground.
