There is a nice lady, Sandi2 who has helped a lot of folks, she left this for me on my post, see if it helps you like it did me
I have a thread elsewhere and spellfire sent me here to read this thread. I just want you to know that I really appreciate you posting this list of dos/donts. Some of these I have already tried (without knowing there was a list), and I have seen some improvement. I'll try the others on the list too.
Me 35 W 30 Together 11 years (long distance dating) M 9 1/2 years S 7 D 5 S 3 D newborn