By all means if SHE brings up the hormones as an issue, listen and validate, etc. I'm just saying that I hate it when I'm upset at h, or work, or whatever, and I share with him, and he immediately goes to me and my hormones/pms, etc. I think he does this in part due to his job, (MD) and partly b/c he doesn't want to ever think he might be part of the issue (and maybe b/c he's a man and a "fixer" so, who knows?) But it does make me screw my head in the ceiling (and it's way worse when he's right!!)
I have to own my communications though, he is not a mind reader. I get that.
W, you see the point I'm making? It's not that the hormones are NOT part of this; it's that I doubt him saying it will help. Since she has brought it up though, at least we know she's aware of it.
anyhow, don't get discouraged Ral, she isn't speaking with total clear finality and that's a good thing. I mean if she said you repulse her and she hates you, and feels fine, but just hates YOU, etc, that's a diff sitch. She's not.
Hang in there, ( j )
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I have an cooking timer in the bathroom. My 13 year old gets 10 minutes to be clean. Because as I told him the next time me or mom has to take a cold shower because he was in there for 45 minutes, it would be the last hot shower he took in this house.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Went out to eat last night with step D-20 and S-11. Meal was enjoyable but the distance between W and I seems huge. We talk, and she is nice, but I'm her excess baggage. There is no physical contact at all. We're just living in the same house. We do still sleep together. I'm keeping my yap shut and I'm planning answers ahead of time in case something comes up... In the mean time I'm trying to be a dad and do my share of the daily life chores. I don't understand why she isn't serving me with D papers if she doesn't have any feelings for me. I'm Working on my faults daily as well.
Just checking in. I hope everyone is well. No change here in my sitch. W acts agitated to be around me. I try to stay clear. Other times she'll act normal and even talk. I'm taking life 1 day at a time...
