I don't know what she meant. I've been keeping a written journal of everything that has and is transpiring. I've been collecting whatever evidence I can of her behavior/my time with the baby/etc.

I've hired an attorney, but otherwise am going into distant mode. I'm going to be nice, cordial, ask about the baby, and otherwise talk about the weather and her day at work. I'm not initiating any contact, letting her contact me.

And yeah... reality is going to hit at some point. She seemed fully convinced that by her lawyer filing papers that talked nasty about me that she would be divorced in 30 days and move on with life.

It could have been that way... but she chose to go the dirty route. We'll probably have two more anniversary's roll around if she continues fighting.

Her mother is extremely defensive. She just says "There is nothing wrong with my daughter." when I mention things. When I talked about her self-cutting, etc. from high school she says "That is just what kids do nowadays."

I dunno... I figure she wants this to be a contracted process because she's already got OM but doesn't want her mother to find out because her mom won't continue paying for a lawyer. Her behavior, activity, etc. seem to fit the profile of someone who is running around.

I should know. Anyway... just venting. I'm going to be nice, cordial, and completely distant. Maybe she'll wake up at some point and think about what she is doing.

"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."