Well, that certainly changes everything. If you are currently both in the M together, then of course it is a good idea to pay attention to Valentines day! Except, I'd now go *further* than others suggested. A box of chocolates and a card is nice, sure. But it can be disappointing. A let down. It really isn't very personal. It may not show much concern for *her*.
Make your gift special. It doesn't need to be expensive, but it does need to be about her. Make it show that you really thought about *her*. For instance, my H got me a Russel Stover box of chocolates with a cute attached stuffed animal. OK, I thought, truly, sweet I guess, but kind of a bummer. At first. For, when I opened the box of chocolates, he had replaced all the chocolates with pieces of my very favorite kind of dark chocolate. How amazingly thoughtful and what a great way to make the gift about me.
Another example. Often books and CDs that are gifts are really about the giver -- what the giver likes, what the giver wants to share with others. Contrast this with a present I recently bought SIL. I don't know her that well, but over the summer I was surprised to learn that she was a passionate master gardener. For Christmas I bought her a book that was the correspondence between two English master gardeners who had a lifelong friendship built on their gardening bond. She loved it. Whether or not she ever reads it or likes it, it made her feel special. It was a gift about her.
