I know what went wrong for the most part.

1. We never really trusted each other with our deepest hearts.

2. She has a very stoic old world feeling about gender roles even though she knows that it is crap.

3. I became deeply depressed and was not able to hold steady work for several years. I was very attentive to her otherwise.

4. We were not able to fulfill her expectations of married life. She didn't really share those needs with me until it was too late.

Saffie, Thank you for being interested enough to help me.

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Me 36
W 28
Married 02
Separated 9/08