Kindergarten.. what a beautiful exciting experience for your daughter.. and the opportunity to go to school with her big sister.
Your ex spouse has definitely moved on from the marriage but the two of you do such an incredible job at taking care of your munchkins. You can't hold onto someone who doesn't want to be there.. but he's there to help and support. A very weird unique situation.
I don't think he's one upping you. He's living the life he's wanted.. something that started with his affair. He's doing the renovations, going out and about and probably feels like the two of you had the easiest divorce ever, an ideal one. I remember you writing long ago that he seemed to want everything he had, except the husband and wife relationship with you.
He's set up his new life and is 'free'.
You get to do the same, too. What was appropriate as a couple is no longer needed now. Your vacation is your vacation. His is his. Any time you spend pondering on his activities or involvements takes away positive energy for you and your daughters.
Enjoy the fun and the sun, being warm and relaxing. Being a mom is a lifetime commitment but not all of who you are.
