I'm not sure, but it sounds like you both are getting the things said .. that needed to be said. I think that is a good thing. Is this a first? Have you communicated/talked (in depth) about this kind of stuff at any time during this current situation?
In some of what he is saying .. it appears that he is "half-in" and "half-out".
I know you're not seeing it, but I think that these communications are a good thing. Be brutally honest. Let's hope your H is too.
