You are absolutely right! Our H's are VERY much alike!!
Listen to Snodderly. She is a great "mother hen" and her advice is golden.
I understand the difficulty of your struggle with anger. I've been having a lot of that myself recently. My best advice is to be kind to yourself. Be your own best friend! This is a process, and success is in the journey, not the destination. So long as you continue to get up and dust yourself off and continue forward after you fall, you can not fail!
We don't know what the future holds, so it's no use spending brain time worrying about it. Try to greet your destiny with an open mind and heart as it is revealed to you.
The past is gone. The future will take care of itself. Do everything you can to be as happy as you can today! [Much easier said than done, I know!!]
Take care!!
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TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd